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Problems Q to U

Problems Q

Problems Q, R, S, T, U

 

                                                                          

Q

Fever

Quacks

Quarrel

Queue Problems

Quixotic Plans

 

R

Radiation Problems

Rape 

Rapture: Fact or Myth?

Retirement Problems

Robbery

Romantic Problems

-Dating Problems

-Flirting

-Problems Finding Girl/Boyfriend  

S

Sadness

Sarcasm

Schizophrenia

School Fee Problems

Sex Problems

-Exhibitionism

-Frigidity

-Homosexuality

-Impotence

-Incest

-Lesbianism

Orgasmic Difficulties

-Pedophilia

-Premature Emission

-Prostitution

-Transvestism

-Vaginismus

-Voyeurism

-Zoophilia

Sleep Excessive

Smoking

Snake Bites

Snoring

Somnambulism

Spiritualism

Squint

Steroid Abuse

Stings

Street People

Stress

Suicide

Superstitions

Survival Problems

 

T

Taboos

Tetany

Telephone--Cellular Problems

Time Management Problem

Tinnitus

Tremors

Tumors

 

U

Ugliness

Underweight

Unemployment

Ungratefulness

Unkempt Appearance

Unlucky Events &  Numbers

Unpopularity  

Untouchability 

Urticaria

  

Q Fever

Q Fever is an acute infectious disease caused by coaxiella burnettii rickettsia. The symptoms of the disease resemble those of pneumonia.  The incubation of this disease normally takes one to three weeks.  Sheep, cattle and goats are the reservoirs for human infection. The disease from sheep, cattle and goats are spread to humans through contaminated milk, animal feces and urine.  The dust also can be contaminated by the feces and urine of these animals and when inhaled can cause Q fever in humans.  When the milk is not properly pasteurized, it can help to pass infection from the animal to the human.  This disease is a worldwide disease.  

Treatment

The patients of Q Fever would be treated with tetracycline.  To prevent this disease among humans one has to prevent the infection in the livestock or to have reduction of contact with the infected animals and the dust contaminated by them.  And there should be very good pasteurization of the milk.  This disease is an occupational risk for animal handlers, workers, vets, and lab persons who deal with this type of rickettsia. 

  

Quacks

A quack is one who tries to treat patients from their diseases without qualification, training and license.  The quacks are also known as charlatans.  The quacks are intelligent persons who try to take advantage of the gullibility, desperation, superstition, and the novice of the patients. Many patients who are not finding cure with the standard and regular medicine, will follow the adage,  A drowning man catcheth even a straw. They are so desperate to get some sort of cure that they will go to the quacks for cure. 

Many quacks claim to have cure for weight loss, AIDS, cancers and arthritis and for many other diseases. They aver to have cure for baldness and all types of sexual dysfunctions. One can see their advertisements in some newspapers, magazines and on their websites. The naive patients of the quacks are wasting money, worsening their health conditions and sometimes losing their lives.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

              People are to be educated regarding the diseases and their treatment. The patients are to check out about suspicious medical doctors and healers and their qualifications and licenses. Many quacks sell a lot of tonics and potions.  Most of the potions and tonics are alcohol based, and they are to check out with the medical doctors to see whether these potions and tonics are beneficial or not.  Patients, who suffer from terminal diseases, would try anything under the sun to be cured.   When they visit quacks, they are wasting their time, money and energy and sometimes it might be detrimental and lethal to their health.  The government should take stern action on the quacks so they would not be free to fool the people.  Nevertheless, the ultimate choice is in the hands of the individuals and patients and they would be wise by choosing not to visit a quack.

  

Quarrel

Quarrel is a dispute, isnt it?  Quarrel can be a verbal or physical conflict between two people who dont agree over something. In almost every walk of life, one will see or will be involved in some kind of quarrel.  Sometimes verbal conflict will lead to a physical fight.  It can draw bad blood between two individuals or groups.  Occasionally, it will lead to injury or murder of a person or persons.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Fortunately, when we like one another we will not quarrel for trivial or even major reasons.  But what if somebody else always loves to pick up quarrel?  Just ignore that person if you can. It is invariably good to prevent a quarrel but once it has started, try to stop it as early as possible because it can trigger into a major fight, where apart from a verbal fight it could be a physical fight.  And sometimes a verbal or physical quarrel may lead to murder. If you find that somebody is using a knife or gun and trying to hurt the other person do not go in between because you might be stabbed or shot.

 Suppose you see two persons fighting, first assess the situation to know if you can separate the fight without being harmed. If you can really separate the fight, go and drive sense to them and mediate between the two and see that there is some compromise between the two.  But if you see that you cant really separate the two who are fighting then call the cops.  If you think that your life would be in danger by calling the cops, you should call emergency number without giving your name, phone number, and address. 

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Queue Problems

A queue is a waiting line.  It is to line up and wait for your turn whether to pay or receive something.  You find queues everywhere, in shopping malls, banks, cafeterias, airports, post offices and while purchasing tickets at railway stations.  If the queue is very long it can pose some problems.  If the line is very long you will be wasting time and energy and it can tire you out.  It can cause stress, strain and frustration.   When someone is trying to jump queues it could lead to quarrels and fights. For old people and some persons who are sick, it is very arduous for them to stand in queue. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The solutions are based on planning and organizing.  Standing in the queue in a bank is a big problem for customers and ironically, the bank exists for the sake of the customers. Therefore, the bank officials must do everything to please the customers and see that the customers are not in discomfort and distress.  The bank workers should give token numbers to all the customers as they come in for service and there should be sitting facilities for the customers.  Each teller and each compartment should have electronic lights to beep and display the token numbers.  When the token number appears, the person who holds that token number should go and do his/her business.  The customers who have the tokens are to be advised that they should pay attention and not to wander far off because if their numbers are called and they are not there, then they will forfeit their chance and they have to take a new token number.    

If there are no token number system in work places, train stations or bus stations or other public places then a queue should be in the form of chairs and these should be stationary and not moveable. People can sit on the chairs and relax and listen to their walkmans or read a book or novel or just take rest while waiting.  So if there are chairs to sit and wait, it is comfortable for the customers and the clients.  What if there is want of space or no finance to buy chairs, or there are no electronic lights that beep and display token numbers.  In that case, there should be a separate queue for senior citizens and the sickly persons. However, a person can be normal and can act sick and stand in the line for the sickly persons. Hence, persons who are sickly should get a doctors certificate stating that they are sick and cannot stand for long time.   When there are no places for sitting and no tokens in banks they must open more counters, e.g., more tellers in the bank so that the queue would be smaller because there will be less people standing in the queue for each teller.

 For the ones who have no choice but to stand in a queue, my advice to them is to find out when is the best time when the queue is shortest.  Usually queues become long during lunchtime. The queues tend to be long just before the weekend and just after the weekend.  Early morning hours, the queue may be short. Sometimes, it is best to eat and then stand in the queue because you will be less frustrated.  You can take a makeshift chair so that you can sit.  If you are not able to stand, ask another person to stand for you and you can give that person some tips. 

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Quixotic Plans

Quixotic plans are those that are idealistic and very unrealistic to implement. This word comes from the hero of Cervantes romantic novel Don Quixotic.  The quixotic plans are so unreal like how Don Quixote tried to do lofty romantic and chivalrous actions that were very unpractical.  There are many individuals who have grandiose plans for which there is no money or they are not practical.  Some individuals plan to marry celebrities, plan to possess great things, plan to buy the most expensive cars and plan to do many great feats, which may not be feasible and possible.  This will give rise to more problems like unhappiness, frustration and living in a world of fantasy.  Other people who follow quixotic plans also suffer financially and lose time and energy.  

Spiritual Solutions

Always plan with prayers to God.  Pray to find out if it is Gods will for a plan to be implemented.  There are many people who plan without praying to God. They might have a big building construction plan and they will decide to go ahead without asking God, and when they dont have enough money for it, they will pray for money.  How can one plan something and then ask God to approve it and give the money?   First, find out from God if it is His will to take up a project, and once God reveals His will and approves then take up that project. Next, you can pray for the funds. But if a person has already decided and planned and then prays to God for money, it is absurdity. 

The plans, which you have from day to day, must be practical.  Do not plan impractical things.  I am not advising you not to have dreams in life, rather, those dreams in life must be in accordance with Gods will.  Suppose you are always failing in science subjects, then do not plan to be a medical doctor.  If history and political science are not your forte do not plan on becoming a lawyer.  Your plans should be realistic.  All persons who cannot see well should not plan on being professional drivers.  There are some CEOs and managers who try to plan something, which is quixotic. They do not take other peoples advice, and they do everything on their own.  They think that everybodys ideas are foolish and their own plans are great. Then there are some workers, who know the plans of the CEO are impractical but just to get favor from him, will flatter him by saying that it is an excellent plan.   Dont flatter such an individual, just to get some favor because it can hurt the whole company and it can go into financial loss. Everybody without exception must follow what is instructed in Proverbs 3:6, which declares, In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct thy path.  Therefore, plan in accordance with the will of God.  Do your best by following His will and He shall fulfill the rest. 

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Radiation Problems

Radiation is an emanation of energy in the form of electromagnetic rays.  The electromagnetic rays include gamma rays, x-rays and ultra violet rays.  Nuclear fission produces great energy and also ionizing radiation, which is in the form of radioactive particles. These radioactive particles if exposed too much to the body is detrimental to health.  If too much exposure to radiation takes place, there could be radiation sickness.  The symptoms of this radiation sickness could be vomiting, anorexia, diarrhea, weight loss, immune deficiency and fever.  Too much exposure to radiation will cause cancers.  The nuclear waste disposal from the nuclear reactors can also cause environmental problems and health problems too.  Nuclear problems such as the nuclear accident that took place on April 26, 1986 in Chernobyl caused lots of problems to ecosystems and to human life.  Because of this terrible accident some persons have died and later other people have suffered from various diseases and cancers, and also it has destroyed the ecosystem like plants and animals. Nuclear bombs can destroy life from the face of the earth. 

Management

Undergo x-ray diagnostic test only when it is a must.  Abdominal x-rays, chest x-rays and mammograms are not supposed to be conducted very often on a patient. Pregnant women should not be exposed to x-rays, and it is better for them to undergo ultrasonography.  The technicians working with x-rays must, from time to time, monitor how much they have been exposed to x-rays. They must always wear a shield and be behind protective doors and walls.  If anyone else is assisting another patient in the x-ray room, he/she must wear a protective gown.  Men should see that their testicles must not be exposed to x-rays because they can become sterile. 

People must try to avoid too much exposure to ultraviolet light.  It is good for them to wear sunglasses, which help them to avoid ultraviolet light. The sunglasses come in many different types, so try to look for the sunglasses, which are good for driving or for beaches. Do not live in areas that are close to nuclear reactors.  The concerned governments should make every effort to ensure that nuclear waste is disposed of properly. Nuclear power nations should make sure that the nuclear accidents do not happen. All nuclear powers should not even dream to engage in nuclear warfare.  People had seen the effects of nuclear warfare when America bombed two Japanese cities in August 1945, therefore, nuclear nations should not engage in nuclear warfare.

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Rape

Rape is an act of sexual intercourse with a female without her consent.  Rapes are committed in most nations of the world.  There are some reasons why men rape. Some are psychotics, others want to turn their sexual fantasies into reality, while still others have no fear of God. They will rape just for their sexual gratification.  Smut is a catalyst for rape. Rape is a dilemma in a society.  The rape victim would be mentally devastated, depressed, and afraid of the possibility of pregnancy.  The rape victim will have nightmares, and the rest of her life could be shattered. Finally, she may become suicidal.  

Spiritual Solutions

The foremost thing to do is to educate men from childhood to fear God and respect all females.  The males should be taught in schools, colleges, and universities, that rape is an obnoxious crime and it is an abomination to the Lord.  They are to be inculcated that they should only have sex within the marriage and that it must be with the wifes consent.  The government must take potent measures to punish the rapists.  We know in the nations where rapists have been given punishment like beheading, rape has almost become extinct there.  The punishment of death must be awarded to rapists and it must be swift as this would act as a deterrent for all the rapists and all the psychotic persons.  Persons who are mentally deranged must be taken to seek help from a psychiatrist, or be institutionalized in a mental hospital, so that they will not go out and rape innocent females. 

When people witness a rape or hear from a rape victim, they must immediately contact the police. A rape victim should not keep it a secret but must disclose it to the authorities and they are to keep the identity of the rape victim a secret as far as possible and the guilty ones must be caught and punished.  If most of the rape victims keep quiet, then rapists will become braver and commit more rapes.  Some smut supporters argue that smut can prevent rape. However, the real situation is that smut is like a fantasy and most rapists want to put their sexual fantasy into reality and they can do it by raping. Smut is like a piece of bone thrown a little away from a dog that is tied. The dog that is tied can see the bone but cant chew it so he will try to break the chain to grab and chew the bone.  Hence, smut is a catalyst to  some men to commit rapes because smut is like seeing the bone and committing a rape is like chewing the bone. Finally, the bottom line is all people must be taught to fear God, respect a woman's body, and sex ought to be consensual and within marriage. 

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Rapture  - Is it true?

Some Christians believe that there will be the carrying away of the saints to heaven prior to the tribulation and this is be called the rapture.  The ones who believe in this doctrine say that the rapture will be carried out in secret.  The ones who are left behind will notice that many people have disappeared.  There are a few films and books to propagate this doctrine of rapture. The films portray how people disappear and others are left behind wondering what happened to their loved ones or friends. The films show how cars are banging into each other because there are no drivers (the drivers have been raptured) and airplanes crash because there are no pilots.  Because of these movies, the rapture doctrine has become quite popular.

We are to be aware what people speculate and say but we must follow what the Holy Bible states clearly. The believers of the rapture doctrine inform that just before the tribulation many Christians or the righteous would be raptured to escape tribulation and during the tribulation many Jews will be converted into Christianity, and at the end of the tribulation, the second coming of Christ will take place. Has the rapture taken place or will it take place? Is the doctrine of rapture true? Is rapture a fact or myth?  

Answer

My advice is as you read this answer, please keep praying so that the Holy Spirit can direct you to whether rapture is true or false. Let us see what the Bible clearly states.

1. The righteous Christians must suffer tribulation and not escape it. Revelation 12:17 states And the dragon was wroth with the woman, and went to make war with the remnant of her seed, which keep the commandments of God, and have the testimony of Jesus Christ.   How can the dragon make war with the true Christians when they are taken away before the tribulation?  There would be war between the dragon and the Christians. They will also suffer as mentioned in verses 16 and 17 of Revelation 13 chapter, where they state, And causeth all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and bond, to receive a mark in their hand, or in their foreheads. And that no man might buy or sell save he that have the mark, or the name of the beast or the number of his name. The righteous who don't have the mark will not able to buy and sell.  If there is rapture, where is the question of buying and selling?  But they are here to suffer, but if they are carried away to heaven, they won't suffer.

 Mathew 24:21-22, asserts, For then shall be great tribulation, such as was not since the beginning of the world to this time, no, nor ever shall be.  And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved; but for the elects sake, those days shall be shortened.  Here, it informs that there shall be great tribulation and that the tribulation shall be shortened or else no flesh shall be saved.  It does not state the elect will be carried away before the tribulation.   It doesn't say that true Christians will not suffer persecution and they will be carried away in rapture, but it simply says the days of tribulation will be shortened.  Why should the days be shortened if the Christians are carried away? What is the use of tribulation if the Christians are not tested?  The Christians must be tested, and they should be tested like how gold is tried in fire. 

2. The elect are not Jews but all who believe in Lord Jesus. The believers of the rapture argue that the elect are the Jews and the Jews have to suffer the persecution. But what does the Bible talk about who are the elect?  Romans 10:12 & 13 state,  For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon Him so whomsoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So the elect are all who call upon the name of the Lord.  The Jews are not the elect but anyone who calls on the name of the Lord. And the Jews are not going to suffer but every true Christian will suffer tribulation and there is no rapture.

3. Some righteous Christians will die during the tribulation. In Revelation 7:14 it declares,  These are they which came out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. It clearly states here that the Christians would have suffered and died.  The believers of rapture doctrine argue that these people who have suffered and died are not Christians but Jews who were converted to Christianity.  But Revelation 7:9 says, After this I beheld, and, lo, a great multitude, which no man could number, of all nations, all kindred, and people, and tongues, stood before the throne, and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, and palms in their hands. This explicitly shows that the people who suffer and die through tribulation are not Jews but followers of Christ from all nations, all kindred, all peoples and all tongues. This exposes the hollowness of the rapture doctrine. 

In Revelation 13:15, it informs, And he hath power to give life unto the image of the beast, that the image of the beast should both speak and cause that as many as would not worship the image of the beast should be killed.  The ones who refuse to worship the image of the beast should be killed, so there are Christians who will be killed.

Some of the rapture believers argue that events recorded in Revelation 4 to 19 chapters all happen in heaven and not on earth. This argument holds no water. The whole book of Revelation was addressed to the seven churches in Asia. The message pertains to all the people on earth and not to the ones living in heaven.   

4. Other persecuted righteous will be protected but not be carried away from this world. Lord Jesus prayed in John 17:15, I pray not that Thou shouldest take them out of the world but that Thou shouldest keep them from evil.  The righteous people will not be taken out of the world but some of them would be protected. When you look at Exodus 9:26 and Exodus 10:23 it shows how in the land of Goshen, where the Israelites were living, the plagues were not present whereas in the other parts of Egypt the plagues were present among the Egyptians. The Israelites were not taken away from Egypt during the tribulation of plagues but were protected by God. In the last tribulation, true Christians will be not taken away or raptured but they will be in the world and God will protect some of them.                                                                 

5. Greek word Parousia does not mean rapture but coming. The believers of the rapture say that Paul used the Greek word parousia in 1st Thessalonians 4:15, which means rapture. But the same word Paul used in 1st Thessalonians 3:13 and 2nd Thessalonians 2:8 where it does not denote any secret rapture, but it says before the coming of Christ there will be the coming of the anti-Christ. Parousia means coming.   

6. There will be sound of trumpet and shout and no secrecy during the Lord's coming. In fact, 1st Thessalonians 4: 15-17 show that there is no rapture, because they mention, The Lord will descend from heaven with a shout  Shout is something where there it produces sound. Next, therell be a voice of an Archangel, and sound of trumpet. All these show that, there is not going to be any secret rapture.    

7. The second coming of Lord Jesus is one single event and cannot be divided into several events. The rapture doctrine believers divide the second coming of Christ into several events, i.e., where in one event saints will be carried away before tribulation and in another event during tribulation Jews will be converted and will be persecuted, then in still another event where at the end of tribulation, Christ will come. Through out the Bible, the second coming of Lord Jesus is mentioned as one single event. 

8. Belief in rapture can tell the year of Lord's coming whereas the Bible tells no man knows the time of the Lord's coming. The rapture believers mention that seven years after the secret rapture, Lord Jesus will come. How can one say in a particular year, Lord Jesus will come when the Bible states in Mathew 24:36, But of the day or the hour knoweth no man nor angels of heaven but My father only.  It clearly shows that you cannot know the time or the year of His coming.  Nowhere in the Bible states there will be seven years after the tribulation before Lord Jesus comes. Hal Lindsey, in his book, 'The Late Great Planet Earth,' had predicted in 1970 that the coming of the rapture and the tribulation would take within forty years or so of 1948 because in 1948 the state of Israel was created.  And within the next forty years the coming of Christ shall take place.  And he used the forty years according to the Biblical duration of a generation based upon the parable of the fig tree.  When you add forty years from 1948 it comes to 1988 and seven years before that secret rapture will take place and the tribulation will begin. So rapture should have taken place in 1981 or 1982 and by 1988 & 1989 Lord Jesus should have come. However, all those predictions have gone haywire because even till now Lord Jesus has not come and there has been no rapture whatsoever. 

9. Stories of disappearances of thousands of people are fabricated. There are many created stories here and there about thousands who have disappeared but there is absolutely no proof to show that they have disappeared into thin air.  May be disappearance of some persons is due to migration, elopement, suicide or murder. But there is no way, a secret rapture can occur. Some rapture believers may commit suicide after a failed predicted rapture event. My advice to rapture believers is please do not commit suicide after a failed predicted rapture event but discard the myth of rapture, reject false prophets like Harold Camping; follow not crazy Bible teachers, rather love Lord Christ with all your heart and believe in His instruction mentioned in Mathew 24:36.

10. Every eye shall see the Lord when He comes. Revelation 1:7 expresses, Behold He cometh with clouds and every eye shall see Him, and they also which pierced Him; and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of Him. Even so amen. As you can see when Lord Jesus comes every eye shall see Him. This is no secret rapture as everybody is going to see the event.  The rapture doctrine believers quote Matthew 24:40 which states, Then shall two be in the field, the one shall be taken and the other left. Here, there is no rapture because others who are not saved are seeing the event of the saved going to heaven during the Lord's coming. It is no secret. In conclusion, rapture is not true but a myth and fiction.

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Retirement Problems

Retirement is a period when someone who has been working would be rested and pension become payable until the time of death.  There are other benefits like gratuity.  However, the benefits of retirement differ from company to company, and also the age for retirement differs from institution to institution, and from country to country.  Retirement time is a time when persons will have a lot of difficulty.  They will be receiving pension, which is very meager.  Some of the retired people do not have a house to live, and the future will be bleak for them. Many retirees could be depressed because they would not be occupied. And sometimes their children are not married, or have not completed their education so the retired persons would have a lot of unfinished tasks.  Sometimes the retired persons will not be covered with all the benefits in some companies.  Usually this is a time where there is a lot of stress and strain, financial and health problems.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Many years before retirement one has to plan to take care of retirement problems.  The planning should answer many questions.  Would all of my children finish their education? Would I have a house to live in? Would I have money to take care of my medical bills?  Where would I live? Would the climate be good for my health? 

Do not work in companies where there are no retirement benefits and a pension.  Try not to work on contract basis, because contracts do not cover pension and other retirement benefits. The senior citizens in Canada are covered well by health insurance policies and social security measures. 

A person should always save some money towards buying a house.  Children, who have been done with their education and are employed, ought to help and save some money to buy a house for their parents and the parents should always see that before they retire, children are well settled.  It would be good if the children get married before retirement, of course, they cannot force the children to get married, because it is their decision when to get married.  The retirees need to a find a good house where there are no electricity and water problems. They are to live in a safe neighborhood where there is no crime and violence, since most retired people are vulnerable for thefts and murders. The retired people should buy a house in an area where the climatic conditions are good for their health.  Retirees must settle in locations close to hospitals in case of emergency.

Individuals are to be psychologically prepared for retirement, because retirement can bring a lot of depression and frustrations.  Most retirees can do other jobs as well; if they are teachers they can work part time in schools or colleges; if they are doctors they can still open their private clinics if the government permits; whatever their profession, if their health conditions permit they can work part time and be occupied. Some retired persons can write books or articles. The retirees must join some social clubs and have some kind of entertainment there.  Some of them should join gyms and health clubs to keep themselves fit.  They can go jogging and do some exercise but the exercise must not be vigorous. From time to time they can go visit their children or grand children or vice versa. 

To keep themselves happy, retirees can go out for some excursions, or visit different nations if health and money are no problem. When visiting other nations, they are to be careful because most old people are vulnerable to be victims of crime and violence.  Retired people, whether male or female, should have regular health checkups.  Women should have check ups for breast, uterus and menopausal problems and men for prostate and other health problems.  They should write their will and keep it ready.  The will should be addressed to anyone they love.   . 

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Robbery

            It is an act of taking something secretly, which does not belong to himself/herself.  Persons rob because of poor spiritual upbringing, lack of money and because of obsession as in the case of kleptomania. 

Spiritual Solutions

            There should be good spiritual upbringing from childhood.  People should be taught to fear God.  Robbers ought to be severely punished to discourage them and other prospective ones. Kleptomaniacs should be given psychotherapy.

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Romantic Problems

Dating Problems

Dating is friendship between the opposite sexes.  Dating is good provided if it is followed on God's principles.  But dating has many problems if it is not followed on God's principles.  Dating problems could be frustration, tension, stress, jealousy, and betrayal; other dating problems are pregnancies and abortions, common law union, transmission of sexual diseases like herpes and AIDS.  The dating problems could also lead to violence or distrust.  

Spiritual Solutions

There can be casual dating and steady dating that could really lead to marriage.  There is also dating that could lead to an engagement, but later on that engagement can be broken. When you want to select your date dont be in a hurry.  Telling 'I Love You' and not manifesting love in deeds will not make you an authentic lover anymore than speaking kind words to a beggar will make you a philanthropist. My advice to you is when you are looking for dates, pray to God to see who could be your steady date.  Casual dating can later lead to promiscuous behaviour.  If you do not ask God's will, then you will end up with the wrong date and that date may lead you into sexual intercourse, and who knows, you might be gifted with genital herpes or AIDS virus. After praying to God, I am sure God will show you a good one for you. 

I am recommending some guidelines for successful dating that would lead to marriage.  

1.                  Whenever you date together, pray together so that you will not be tempted to sin.

2.                  Be honest to each other, and don't have sex before marriage.

3.                  Try to compromise if you have any short falls

4.                  Both should be willing to bear expenses.  If you go to a restaurant or some descent entertainment place, you should be ready to spend some money.

5.                  When you date, don't go to secluded places and provocative entertainment centers as they can lead to sex.  Don't drink alcohol and take drugs. 

6.                  Don't be jealous and try not to be over possessive. Love contains a few ounces of possessiveness but not liters of it. 

7.                  Don't say up late in the night. This could also lead to sexual intercourse. And try not to break up the relationship. 

8.                  If at all there is a breakup, don't go and gossip and tell bad about your previous date to others or to the next date.  It is not good to wash dirty linen in public or to pull skeletons out of the closet.  Let sleeping dogs lie. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions 

       Both of you must maintain good and steady relationship.  One advice is to always have a condom ready, just in case you want to have sex, and it could protect you from sexually transmitted diseases.  If you carry a condom, you are going to have sex but if you don't carry a condom you will have fear of genital herpes, AIDS or pregnancy and you may not want to have sex.  If you have unprotected sex, it is inevitable that you are going to face grave problems.  

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Flirting

Flirting is an act where a person behaves unfaithfully with opposite sex, or the person will not be true to a friendship.  Flirting can lead to many problems and all the more when a person keeps it a secret from the other sexual partner.  This could lead to sense of distrust and disloyalty.  And when the flirting is known it will lead to betrayal, bitterness, hatred and sadness of the other partner. It could also lead to sexually transmitted diseases. Flirting is sin. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

All the persons should be taught from childhood that they are to maintain good relationship in love and marriage. It is better for them to stick with one lover than playing games with more than one lover.  The person who flirts must ask himself, Suppose my lover did it to me, how would I feel?  If a boy is a flirt and he later finds out his girlfriend was flirting, he will not be happy.  So it is not good to flirt.  Flirting in terms of sexual activities, could lead to sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis and AIDS.  Men are to be taught by their mothers and fathers not to flirt, and the fathers should be an example by not flirting.  Mothers should be examples to their daughters by not flirting themselves.  

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Problem of Finding Girlfriend or Boyfriend

    For some persons, finding a girlfriend or boyfriend is a major problem.  Occasionally, a male may love a female, but that female does not reciprocate. This is called one-way love traffic.  When one likes or loves someone, he/she may wonder how to approach the person, and may have the fear that person will reject him/her.  If rejection takes place, he/she may be sad. 

Spiritual Solutions

        Many online dating websites lead to only short sexual relationships and they dont long.   When you like somebody, first of all pray to God to find out if it is the will of God for that person to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. If God is in approval, the next plan is to proceed.  If you are afraid to go and approach the girl and say, I would like to be your girlfriend, its expedient to use a close friend who will not betray you later, to mediate for you.  The mediating person should tactfully ask the intended target, What if my friend loves you, would you respond positively? If the person says, Yes, it is fine. But if the person says No, do not worry about it because that person is not the only one in the world.  Romance is like a field of roses.  If one rose rejects you then you can always pick up another rose that will accept you.  Generally, the rule is guys propose for friendship but some daring girls can be an exception to this rule.  If you are not so sure the person loves you, then dont directly approach the person but you can use indirect means.  

Tell you what? There are many individuals who find a girlfriend or boyfriend and later they pray to God to approve the relationship.  How can God approve a relationship when in the first place you did not consult Him? We must always pray to God for His guidance.  Dont follow your infatuation. You can be infatuated with one girl today and then after a few weeks you might be infatuated by another. Rather you must go by sound principles. 

When trying to find someone, dont be in a hurry. Some individuals are so scared; they are in a hurry because they are afraid that somebody else will grab that person.  But if you choose a girlfriend or boyfriend in a hurry you may repent in leisure later. If somebody grabs that person away, then maybe it is a sign that the person is not for you.  For more information on how to find a true lover please read my novel, Dr. Stevensons Novel: The Truth of Untrue Love. 

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Sadness

It is a state of being unhappy. Sadness can be induced because of some unfortunate events, like death of a loved one, injury or sickness.  You may be sad because your family has problems.  Trivial matters can make some sad. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

If you are sad because of death of loved one you can check the solutions to that problem in this book. If you are sad because of pessimism, check the solutions of pessimism.  To do away with sadness you have to do away with the cause or cope with it.  If you are sad since you received a failing grade, you must first evaluate why you got a failing grade and see that you dont repeat the same mistake. Maybe you did not do your assignment on time; you did not study well; you were more interested in extra-curricular activities.  So next time study well, do assignments on time and get a good grade and be happy.  If somebody has died, and that made you sad, you cannot remove the cause, as you cannot bring that person back to life.  But you can be happy that when Lord Jesus comes, you would see that person again if that person died in the Lord, if not, God shall wipe your tears away. 

Spiritual Solutions 

We may have to suffer and be sad because of our religious beliefs. But first Peter 3:14 says, But and if ye suffer for righteousness sake, happy are ye:  and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled.  You might be sad and suffer for the truths sake but we should be happy because we are counted worthy to suffer for God. 

Proverbs 17:22 states, A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.  Let us not be sad for trivial matters because it will only be detrimental to our health.  It will increase blood pressure, and could lead to heart problems so let us be happy in Lord Jesus.  The only way to throw out sadness from the heart is through indwelling of the Holy Spirit.  Pray for the Holy Spirit because only He can make you happy.   Human beings can come and tell some comfortable words and then go away but it is the Holy Spirit, which really comforts since He is the greatest Comforter in the world.  

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Sarcasm

Sarcasm is an ironic utterance designed to hurt someone else.  It is designed to give a negative effect on a particular individual or group of people.  The persons who use sarcastic language may think they are brilliant.  The person at whose expense the statement has been made is actually the one who has to bear it.  So it is a problem. This could further aggravate the situation by causing enmity or bad blood between individuals or groups.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The person who is using sarcasm to hurt somebodys feeling must realize that he is being nasty.  But suppose that person does not realize, he will go on making sarcastic statements and must be thinking there is no end to himself.  Hence, that person ought to be shown his place.  When someone else uses sarcastic utterances against that person, then he may learn a lesson.  Sometimes, it can only aggravate the situation.  Therefore, it is wise for the boss of the sarcastic person to correct him.  But if the boss himself is sarcastic, then someone else who is higher than him should advise him.  But if there is no one to advise him, then you only can pray for him or you can just ignore his statements and go on and hope that God shows him his place. 

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Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a term used for a large group of mental disorders.  It is a common series of mental disorders where there is a loss of contact with reality.  The patients have delusions or false beliefs, hallucinations, bizarre behavior and also a lessened degree of motivation. The causes of schizophrenia are highly complex, but schizophrenia could be caused both by genetic and environmental reasons and also by neurological problems. 

Management

When persons suffer from delusions or hallucinations and act bizarre, they should be taken to the hospital.  Once the psychiatrists diagnose them to be schizophrenic, they would hospitalize them. The patients would be given medical, psychological, and behavioral treatments.  They usually would be administered with anti-psychotic drugs. This disorder cannot be completely cured but can be controlled. The significant others must show a lot of care and concern for these patients.

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School Fee Problems

When I use the word school I mean all academic institutions at various levels. Many students have school fee problems especially, when they dont have parents supporting their studies.  Many students have to work and study.  There are many students looking for sponsorship and they might be distressed or stressed or may even discontinue their studies in the colleges and universities if their financial problems escalate.  In nations like Canada and the United States, education in public schools is free but at the college level and university level one needs to pay fees, which could be expensive.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The students who are financially weak must apply for student loans.  In order to receive a student loan, one must have good grades.  You must have good recommendation from teachers and you must have sound guarantors also.  When the students receive the loans they must repay within the time allotted. If they fail to do so they will be liable for legal action. The students can also join work and study programs, which are available in many colleges and universities. Some students are lucky to get sponsors.  The students who have financial problems should pray to Lord Jesus and be very close to Him.  He will certainly help. I am not saying only the students who are experiencing this problem should pray to Lord Jesus, for even the students who have a lot of money should pray to Him.

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Selling Problems

It is not effortless for people to sell things especially when they are in a hurry to leave a place.  Managers of stores, whether they are textile stores or whether they are electronic stores, sometimes have problem to sell and market old models.  People who are going to move out want to sell their things like used cars.  There are problems how to sell them.  Selling them for the right price is a problem.  Selling them for too much is cheating others.  Selling them for too little will result in loss.  Selling shares in stocks and shares market can be difficult sometimes.   

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Obviously, persons who are selling their things are to actually plan out well in advance, how to sell.  If you are in a hurry you will probably not get good customers and have to sell the things at a dead cheap price, just to get rid of the things.  When you are not able to sell at the price that you desire, it is better to keep and use them, if not, might as well sell them for whatever prices you can get.  Try to contact friends you know who can buy, also try to advertise in newspapers and use flyers, especially if you want to sell a house or a car.  When you want to sell your car, get it evaluated and tell car mechanics and other friends to spread the word.  

Storeowners and managers have problems trying to sell goods, which are becoming old, especially when new designs of the same products are available.  So they put on sale or increase the prices and give more discount. Indispensably, the best method to sell and for marketing goods is to advertise. When you advertise, people can see what you have to offer, especially if you use tempting or luring slogans where they can easily get attracted.  You can get rid of the things by selling them on installments or on credit, provided the person who is paying has a steady job or is a faithful person who can repay the full cost eventually. 

Little personal things (inexpensive ones) instead of being sold on sale can be actually given as gifts. A person might remember the presenter for the gifts that were given. For selling shares you have to seek the help of honest experienced brokers and also keep ahead with latest information by reading concerned journals.

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Sexual Problems

Exhibition

Exhibitionism is the display of ones genitals to an involuntary observer.  An exhibitionist exhibits his genitals to someone else to achieve sexual excitement. The exhibitionists are usually males and they exhibit to female children and female adults.  They keep repeating this type of behavior even after they have been arrested before.  A few females are exhibitionists too.  Some females are exhibitionists in the entertainment sectors.  If any female exhibits her cleavage and upper portion of breasts, she is an exhibitionist too.  

Management

The exhibitionists should be given psychotherapy. The psychologist should find out why they are doing it and what can be done to stop it.  During psychotherapy, if they are told that there will be severe punishment meted out, sometimes, out of fear they will try to avoid it.    But really if serious punishment is given, then some will stop it.  The family members of the victim should help change his behavior by showing love and trying to adjust with them.

However, medically, an exhibitionist can be stopped from exhibiting, when doctor administers medroxy progesterone that suppresses his sexual desire to exhibit.28 Usually the effect is for three weeks. But this should be done with the consent of the exhibitionist.

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Frigidity

Frigidity is a lack of normal sexual desire in women. The frigid women have difficulty in experiencing erotic sensation. These women would like to avoid sex. The causes for frigidity in women could be bad sexual experiences, i.e., child molestation or rape, painful intercourse, disharmony between the sexual partner and herself like the man has been flirting with another woman or the woman resents him or he suffers from halitosis. So the woman uses sex as a way of controlling her husband by not cooperating to have sex. There could be other causes like fear, guilt, and phobia.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The solutions depend on the cause.  If her husband is suffering from halitosis, that problem should be corrected.  If the husband is flirting, then the husband should be advised to stop it.  In case, the woman is having psychological problems such as anxiety, guilt and phobia, these are to be removed.  The husband should be taught sexual techniques by a marriage counselor to increase her sexual sensation.

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Homosexuality

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation problem where the person is attracted to the same sex.  Homosexuals are also called gays.  I am going to discuss lesbianism separately. What causes a man to be attracted to a man? Some factors are: childhood experiences like being sodomized, family environmental factors like dominant mother, hormonal factors like low testosterone level and behavioral factors like cross dressing. Genetic cause is not involved in homosexuality as gays do not produce children. Besides, bisexuals do not produce bisexuals.  Sometimes it is stated that when a child has contact with a bigger person in homosexual contact during childhood, then he would continue to be involved in homosexual activities.  Some argue that when a family has a more dominant mother than father, a boy in this household could turn out to be homosexual.  Others state there are some problems with hormone imbalance and functioning of hypothalamus. 

But let us see what God says regarding the homosexuality problem.  God has created man and woman and He knows why he created man and woman.  God condemns homosexuality. The Bible calls homosexuality an abomination. In Leviticus 20:13 it states, If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination... Romans 1:27 says And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their own error which was meet. You can see God condemns homosexuality, and it is sin and we are to call sin by its right name.  

Spiritual Solutions

God invented sex and let us listen to the Inventor. Suppose there were only homosexuals in the world after God sent Adam and Eve out of the Garden of Eden, then the whole human race would become extinct that point in time itself. God created man and woman to produce children and replenish the earth. A man is to leave his parents and join with his wife and the two is to become one.   The Lord never created a man to have sex with man because they cannot produce children.  Some are blinded to the fact that homosexuality is wrong and a sin. Homosexuality is an abomination no matter what the psychiatrists or others say. Homosexuals can choose to do what ever they want because God gave them the choice. Nobody should jeer, mock, injure and harm or kill the gays because of their sexual preference.  We may advise these homosexuals go to god-fearing psychiatrists for psychotherapy.  They will find out what are the reasons why they have become homosexuals.  If the gays have experienced it in their childhood, they should be told that what happened was unpleasant but they must be detrained and become straight.  Just because the mother was dominant and son cross dressed does not mean that her son could become homosexual for the rest of his life.   

Since it is an abomination, homosexuals can under go metamorphosis by letting the Holy Spirit control their lives completely. Certainly, with the help of God it can be done. But the homosexuals must repent and ask forgiveness from God or else they will lose their eternal salvation. In order for a change to take place, the homosexuals must pray to God. The bottom line is the gays must repent and let Holy Spirit control their lives totally and then they can become heterosexuals.  

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Impotence

Impotence is erectile dysfunction.  It is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection of penis for sexual intercourse.  This problem can be devastating for men.  The causes of impotence can be physical, psychological and nutritional factors and also due to some medications. The psychological causes could be depression, guilt, fear, anxiety and disharmony between sexual partners. The physical factors are diseases like multiple sclerosis and nutrition related diseases like hypertension and diabetes mellitus. Medications like anti-hypertension drugs, anti-histamines, anti-psychotics and sedatives could bring about impotence.  Spinal cord injuries, endocrine disturbances like pituitary and thyroid dysfunctions and alcohol abuse can also cause impotence.  Since this problem is so devastating, there should be treatment that can really help the affected man to regain his erectile function.  

Management

The affected men are to be treated by medical sex therapists. The treatment is aimed at removing the cause of impotence.  If it is psychological reason then patient should be given psychotherapy and remove the anxiety or depression.  In case, the cause is physical problem then it should be treated.  If the causes are hypertension and diabetes, then these should be managed accordingly. Drugs that can cause impotence, like anti-hypertensives, anti-histamines, anti-psychotic drugs, estrogen, and can be avoided for some time if the doctor advises so.  If it is unsafe to stop using them, then these drugs should not be stopped. For paraplegic and quadriplegic men there is no cure. The drugs which overcomes impotence, should be taken under medical supervision. When the impotence is irreversible penile implants could be considered.  If it is because of circulatory problem then revascularization surgery can be performed on patients. 

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Incest

Incest is sexual relation between closely related persons.  The incest could be between father and daughter, mother and son, aunt and nephew, uncle and niece and stepparent and stepchild.  This is a stinking moral problem.  God did not design sex to be performed this way.  Sometimes when pregnancies are caused, it can lead to more grievous problems, not only in the family but also in the society.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Apparently, all persons must be taught from childhood what are good relationships and what are not. Biologically speaking, these sexual relations could cause congenital malformations and genetic disorders in the children produced from such relations.  The effects of human inbreeding are negative most of the time.  In some Asian countries, people marry first cousins, and the culture accepts the first cousin marriage.  In a few instances, uncles would marry nieces.  However, biologically and genetically speaking this is bad and should not be followed.  The government must make stringent laws to prohibit incest relationship and anyone who is guilty of incest relationship should be severely punished.  If they are not punished then more offenders of incest will be multiplied.   If a law were made that if persons are guilty of incest like father daughter sex relationship, they would be given life imprisonment without the possibility of parole or would be given capital punishment, then out of fear no one would want to get involved in this type of sexual immorality. 

Just imagine if a father has sex with his own daughter and a baby is born.  The child will have confusion because he can call his father as father or grandfather.  This will also cause a lot of confusion in the society apart from in the family.  The forced victims of incest relationships must not keep quiet, but should report to the police.  Suppose they do not report incest relationships, the guilty ones will become bolder and will continue to do it.  Mothers should enquire, when suspicious, if the fathers are molesting the children and these offensive fathers should be taken to task, because if they remain unchecked, inevitably they will graduate from molestation to sexual intercourse.  These episodes, therefore, should not be kept latent rather they are to be manifested. Children should report about child molestation or child abuse. The victims identities should be kept secret and their pictures not publicized in the newspapers or be shown on T.V.   

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Lesbianism

Lesbianism means the attraction of a female to another female.  The word lesbianism comes from the word Lesbos, which is the name of an island that a Greek poet Sappho described as an island for women in love.  Lesbianism is a problem because sex between women cant produce children and God did not create a woman to be sexually attracted to a woman.  In the eyes of God it is a sin and the Bible also calls it an abomination. In Romans 1:26 it states For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature. Bible condemns lesbianism because it is against nature. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Lesbians can choose to do what ever they want because God gave them the choice. Nobody should jeer, mock, injure and harm the the lesbians because of their sexual preferences. But suppose lesbianism was natural, human beings would have become extinct, because two women cannot produce children.    Women become lesbians because they may have had lesbian experiences or bitter heterosexual episodes in the past. Genetic cause is not involved in lesbianism as lesbians do not produce children. Lesbians when they use vibrators, they can keep the vibrator in the other woman's vagina for a long time, where as a man cannot keep his erect penis inside a vagina for such a long time. These women prefer being lesbians because of sexual gratification. This, however, leads nowhere; because neither the vibrator contains semen nor does it have sperms to bring about conception. Hence, these women may be advised to undergo psychotherapy and slowly be detrained to be natural women. 

Spiritual Solutions

In the eyes of God this is not correct because the Bible says a man shall leave his parents and take a wife and the two shall become one flesh. God created man and woman to become one flesh for two women cant become one flesh. It is good for a woman to have sex with man and not with woman.  Let us do what pleases God.  Remember, the human body is the temple of God, therefore let it be kept clean. The lesbians must repent and pray and allow the Holy Spirit to control their lives totally and when He does, they will become heterosexuals without a shadow of a doubt.

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Orgasmic Difficulties

Orgasm is the climax of sexual excitement.  It is also muscular contraction of the vagina or penis.  The female orgasmic difficulty is a persistent delay or absence of normal excitement of sexual activity.  For a rare number of males, even after arousal, they are not able to achieve the muscular contractions and the emission of semen. About 10% of women will never attain orgasm regardless of any type of stimulation or treatment.  Only about 50% of women can actually attain orgasm during sexual intercourse.29  When women do not achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse, it could be very frustrating and distressing. 

          The causes of female orgasmic difficulties are:

1.      Ignorance of genital functions especially clitoral function and to compound this problem is anxiety.  Anxiety and ignorance go together hand in hand and complement each other. 

2.      Fear, guilt and anger.

3.      Inadequate foreplay or premature emission by the male sexual partner.

4.      Some drugs (anti-histamines and sedatives) can depress the female sexual desire.

5.      Depression and stress.

           For men the causes are mainly fear, guilt, and anxiety. Anti-hypertension drugs and anti-depressant drugs and organic problems with the male reproductive organs could also contribute. 

Since failure to achieve an orgasm is both frustrating and very distressing, the affected persons should seek help. 

Management

The causes should be addressed and treated.  Ignorance of vaginal and clitoral functions must be removed by the sex therapist while talking to the women. She should know which is the sensitive part of her sexual anatomy and also how to stimulate it.  The subcoccygeus muscle should be contracted 30 times a day and if pre-vaginal muscle improves then she can, in a way, achieve orgasm. A sizeable chunk of women achieve orgasm through stimulation clitoris. The sexual male partner should also be taught how to stimulate the clitoris of the female in such a manner to have her attain orgasm.  The psychological causes like fear and guilt should be eradiated from the womans mind through psychotherapy.  The best method for a woman to achieve orgasm through sex is the male partner should enter her vagina from the rear position.  When his penis is inside the vagina, with his finger he should stimulate the woman's clitoris and he should delay the emission of semen as long as possible so that the woman can achieve orgasm.  Prior to the penetration he should have a long foreplay of the woman's genitals so that she would have already reached the excitement phase. 

In men, the psychological causes like fear, anxiety and depression should be removed to achieve orgasm.  Drugs like anti-hypertensives and anti-depressants are not to be taken for a while, if the doctor advises so. For a physical damage to male reproductive system, it can be repaired surgically. 

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Pedophilia

Pedophilia is using a child to achieve arousal or sexual gratification by an adult.  The contact is usually oral, but sometimes it even leads to sexual intercourse.   Adults of both sexes can be aroused in this manner. Male pedophiles are usually passive in nature and may suffer from erectile problem.  Most of the offenders keep this problem highly secretive.

One of the causes for the pedophiles to increase in number is naked child photos  through the Internet.  There are pedophiles, who use the Internet to communicate and they send these pictures of children across the web to each other.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Psychotherapy is to be given to pedophiles to kick this filthy habit. Usually, the pedophiles have some sort of sexual dysfunctions.  Some of the male pedophiles have erectile problems so they want to experiment on the children. After finding out the cause why they do it, the psychiatrist should detrain them. The offenders should be severely punished. The families of pedophiles should also encourage the pedophiles to give up this behavior. 

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  Prostitution

Prostitution is an ancient problem.  Every since ancient times, it had always been growing from strength to strength. Prostitution could lead to family break up, sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, HIV infection and AIDS. Children and teenagers can be morally corrupted because of prostitution.  Prostitution can be a black mark on the society. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The government must help rehabilitate prostitutes.  Many women take up this profession because they are poor or want to make easy money.  The government should come up with alternative programs so they can earn money doing something better.  In the Middle Eastern nations prostitution is completely banned. If a rule such as this were followed worldwide, it would assist to eradicate prostitution.   In Western nations, in the name of freedom of speech and expression any damn thing is done. Prostitutes are not called prostitutes but sexual commercial workers.  They are, in fact, encouraged by the facilities, which are given to them, but this will not solve the prostitution problem.  Undoubtedly, if females from childhood are taught to honor their bodies for the glory of God and continuously grow in a spiritual environment, they will not become prostitutes.  When Bible and prayers are brought back into public schools and they are taught that prostitution is sin, and then the females can make a decision not to become prostitutes, come what may.  

Spiritual Solutions

Sexual therapists inform that there should be prostitution, so much so, for men to gratify themselves.  However, I am not of that opinion because the Bible condemns prostitution.  The Bible states in Proverb 9:18, But he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell.  The text is talking about a prostitute who is trying to lure clients and the clients dont know that they are going to the depths of hell.  The Bible expresses again in Proverb 5:3-5, For the lips of a strange woman drops as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.  It leads to sexually transmitted diseases, irrespective of using a condom, as it is not full proof against sexually transmitted diseases.  Prostitution abets to spread gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes and AIDS. When men visit prostitutes, they can also transfer diseases to their partners at home. A man cannot be one flesh with a prostitute.  Prostitution is sin. Prostitutes (female and male) ought to repent and Lord Jesus can produce metamorphosis in their lives provided they submit their lives completely to Him.

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Transvestism

Transvestism is a condition in which a person wears the clothes of the opposite sex and also might play the role of the opposite sex to attain sexual gratification.  The cause is due to similar experience during childhood.  When children were very small, for instance, if they were dressed like the opposite sex, they may develop interest in transvestism and eventually become transsexuals.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Parents ought to dress their children appropriately. Just because they have more female clothes does not mean they can use on their male children. Parents are to train that girls should behave like girls and boys like boys.  If children pray and read the Bible, God will help them to be normal children and become normal adults. The transvestites should be given psychotherapy and they must pray to God to overcome their problems. They must not graduate into transsexuals.

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Vaginismus

Vaginismus is a condition where there would be painful involuntary contraction or spasm of the vaginal muscle because of touch or penetration of the penis.  Vaginismus can cause dyspareunia, which is painful sexual intercourse in females.  The possible causes of vaginismus could be past traumatic experiences like rape, incest, male sexual partners who dont care, fear of pregnancy, and religious prohibition.  

Management

The patients are to be given psychotherapy to find out what exactly is causing it. Next the cause (like fear or anxiety) has to be removed. There can be gradual dilation of the vagina with lubrication. After lubricating the vagina, the womans fingers or dilators can be used to slowly dilate the vagina without it going into spasms.  The woman could do relaxing techniques.  The relaxation techniques can be done by using dilators.  As the woman gets used to the penetration of her own fingers or dilators, she can be gradually ready for penis penetration.

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Voyeurism

This is a condition where a person tries to get sexual arousal by observing the opposite sex undress or heterosexuals engaging in sexual activity. Voyeurists are also known as peeping toms. This habit forms in childhood or in early teens and it would be carried on. Peeping toms spend all their time and energy with this kind of activity, and they have less time to concentrate on their study or work.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The solutions to this problem can begin at home and in school.  When females sit at home or in school, they are to be told to sit properly.  They should not wear short skirts and spread open their legs because the boys will drop a pencil or coin on the ground and while picking it up they will try to see the panties of girls.  It happens in schools and public places.  The females must be taught to dress nicely and sit properly so much so as not to invite this type of temptations to boys.  Where there are no elevators but only staircases, there should be no gaps between the steps because teenagers stand under steps to see under females skirts as they are walking up.  The boys must be properly educated at home in order to avoid peeping under the clothes of the girls.  The persons who are engaged in voyeuristic activities are to undergo psychotherapy. In case, they continue their activities regardless of psychotherapy, they ought to face some kind of punishment.  If they are punished properly, they will not want to do it again.  It goes without saying that when we train our children properly with spiritual environment they will not become peeping toms in the first place.

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Zoophilia

Zoophilia is sexual relationship between human beings and animals. The animal could be a dog, goat, pig and horse.  Zoophilia can transmit diseases called zoonoses, which can spread from animals to humans.  Morally speaking, this is not right and the Bible calls it a sin.  Leviticus 20:15 &16 state, And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast.  And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.  Here you can see how God condemns zoophilia.  In the eyes of God it is an alarming sin.  

Spiritual Solutions

Since God condemns zoophilia one must not involve in it.  It is sin.  When there are stringent laws prohibiting zoophilia, then out of fear persons will not commit zoophilia.  In the Biblical times, since the rules were so strict, people were afraid to commit zoophilia because they would be killed.  Because now there are no rules punishing the guilty ones of zoophilia, some individuals are bold enough to do it. We, therefore, need laws and the offenders should be severely punished.  This will deter them and others from committing the act. If they dont repent, they will be damned in hell. They are to lead their lives, which are controlled by the Holy Spirit so they will not suffer from this evil problem.

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Sleep--Excessive 

Some people sleep for a long time, that is, for 12 to 16 hours. They could be suffering from hypersomnia (too much sleep).  The causes of hypersomnia could be depression, sometimes illnesses like influenza, hyperglycemia, hypothyroidism, anemia, liver failure, multiple sclerosis and epilepsy. Lesions in the brain and abuse of hypnotic drugs can cause sleepiness.  There is another illness called narcolepsy. It is a syndrome where there is sudden attack of sleep with loss of muscle tone (cataplexy). The patients of narcolepsy fall asleep anytime.  The sleep episodes can vary from few to many in one single day and each episode can last several minutes to many hours.   

Treatment

People who sleep for a very long time must seek medical help. Doctors would treat according to the cause. The doctors usually prescribe stimulant drugs to prevent sleepiness.  Patients who take these stimulants would be monitored for hypertension.  If the patient walks or does something that keeps them mobile, it will help them not to feel sleepy. 

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Smoking

           Smoking is harmful and incorrigible habit. It had, has and will enslave millions of people all around the world. People smoke in spite of knowing the evil effects of smoking. Satan must be puzzled and overwhelmed because humans are easy prey and dead meat for his temptations since humans know smoking is detrimental to health, carcinogenic & fatal and yet they smoke.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

           Having decided to quit smoking, those persons can use nicotine replacement therapy like nicotine patch/gum as sheer willpower may not be sufficient. They are advised to stick around with persons who don't smoke & who support them morally when stressed. If they hang around with smokers I bet they will smoke again as they are like sitting ducks in front of the hunter called 'Smoking Addiction'. Stress, nervousness and sadness are to be avoided as much as possible to quit the smoking habit especially in the beginning. Being occupied with positive stuff is an asset to kick the smoking butt and fight withdrawal symptoms. They are not to throw in the towel and be discouraged if they succumb to temptation a few times. Defeating smoking habit by getting addicted to a lesser harmful addiction is another solution but it is up to one's discretion. Nonetheless, without a shadow of doubt, prevention is better than cure in case of smoking. It is cumbersome and arduous to kick the filthy habit of smoking. Children and teenagers should not be permitted to smoke anywhere, let alone of buying cigarettes. The laws to prevent children from smoking are toothless and impotent as one can see children and teenagers under 18 smoking in many places. Potent laws are to be enacted for everyone be it male or female of all ages not to smoke.           

Spiritual Solutions

Smoking is sin though the Bible explicitly does not state so because there was no smoking in Biblical times. However, smoking defiles the temple of God, which is human body. One of the Ten Commandments states that one should not kill and it means not only to kill others but also to kill oneself. Smoking is killing oneself slowly. If one wants to give up smoking, the sure way is willpower, prayer and total surrender to the control of the Holy Spirit.     

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Snake Bites

Poisonous snakes venom are predominantly either neurotoxic or cardiotoxic.  The snakes that are neurotoxic are coral snakes and the snakes that are cardiotoxic are the rattlesnakes and other pit vipers.  Neurotoxins induce respiratory failure, and cardiotoxins produce destruction of tissue by digestion and hemorrhage.  The symptoms of snakebite, for example, a rattlesnake, would be pain and swelling, and there would also be nausea, vomiting and hypertension.  Usually the symptoms of the bite from the coral snake would be respiratory difficulty and drool.  If the patient is not taken to hospital immediately, the patient will die. 

Management

If you find someone who has been bitten by a venomous snake, first of all, you have to tie (not very tight) a tourniquet above the wound so that the blood does not flow freely towards the heart.  Cut the wound a little wider if you have a knife or blade.  If your mouth has no cuts suck out the blood from the wound and spit it out. One should not apply ice to the wound. Try to identify what venomous snake bit the patient. You are to immobilize the patient and keep him in a horizontal position and take him to the nearest hospital for treatment as soon as possible.  In the hospital the medical staff will ask you what snake species bit the person because there are specific antidotes for various poisonous snakebites. Antidote can be given to save the victims life if it is not too late.

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Snoring

Snoring is a sound produced when breathing is partially obstructed during sleeping.  It is more common in obese people.  Snoring could be worse off because of alcoholic drinks, tranquilizers and sleep inducing drugs.   

Management

Big snorers should not take alcohol, tranquilizers, and sleeping pills before sleeping.  It is prudent to sleep on one side. Raising the head of the bed might be helpful and using big pillows, which are soft, could be an asset. For some persons, who irrespective of these measures still snore, might have nasal infections and allergies, which should be treated.  If there are no nasal infections or allergies and there is persistent heavy snoring then the only other alternative measure is surgery to correct obstructions in nose or pharynx.

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Somnambulism

Somnambulism is sleepwalking.  Individuals who suffer from sleepwalking will do activity like walking or doing some work, but later cannot remember doing it. The etiology is obscure. It can affect children and also some adults.  Some people conjecture that it is a feature of demon possession.  Some persons because of the drug addition to alcohol or marijuana can also suffer from sleepwalking. 

Management

Affected individuals are to visit a medical doctor. Usually diazepam is prescribed, since it will suppress the problem of sleepwalking. The relatives of these patients must keep close watch on them and lock the doors in such a manner that they cant go out.  Safety measures are to be maintained to keep the sleepwalker out of trouble.

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Spiritualism

Spiritualism is the belief that the spirits or souls of the dead can communicate with the living.  It is usually done through a medium.  This is a problem because the dead are not talking but the devil is. The devil appears exactly like a dead person but relatives believe that the dead person is communicating with them. They do not realize that it is devil that does it.  God does not like spiritualism and He condemns it. 

Spiritual Solutions

The solutions are Biblical.  The witches, wizards, enchanters and the consulters with the spirits were condemned in the Holy Bible. Deuteronomy 18: 10-12 warns, There shall not be found among you anyone that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, or useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch, Or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancer. For all that do these things are an abomination unto the Lord: and because of these abominations the Lord God doeth drive them out from before thee.  God does not like the practice of witchcraft.  God calls spiritualism an abomination.  My advice is to always obey the Lords commands. If people dont go to enchanters, then they become jobless and they will have to find something else to do.  However, we are living in the last days, and spiritualism will increase and more people will go to the spiritualists. Therefore, some of us have to be on guard so that we dont fall into the trap of spiritualists. A dead person doesnt talk but the devil just as the devil and not Samuel communicated to king Saul in the Old Testament times.

In the last days, Satan uses spiritualism to mix truth and error and bring false teachings and confuse both the Christians and non-Christians.  Satan can make some people sick and he can remove sicknesses from them and those are seen as miracles.  Devils are evil spirits that can cheat people.  These spirits are unclean.  The Bible states in Revelation 16:13 & 14, And I saw three unclean spirits like frogs come out of the mouth of the dragon and out of the mouth of the beast and out of the mouth of the false prophets.  For they are the spirits of devils, working miracles, which go forth unto the kings of the earth and of the whole world to gather them to the battle of the great day of God Almighty. Here, you see the unclean spirits are like frogs and can do miracles and they can deceive so let us not use spiritualism. Evil spirits can accurately speak about the past events but they can only conjecture about the future events and try to bring them to pass. Without a question only Lord Jesus knows about the future. Let us obey God and have nothing to do with spiritualism. 

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Squint

            It is a condition where an eye or eyes are crossed and are not properly placed anatomically in the eye sockets.  Squint is known as strabismus.  If the cornea of the eye is located towards the nose, it is known as convergent strabismus and if it is towards the lateral side, as divergent strabismus.   

Management

            The child should be taken to an ophthalmologist who can assess the squint.  The doctor can teach eye exercises or he can surgically repair the condition. The parents and the affected child are not to be disheartened and depressed since squint can be corrected. The affected individual could also mask the squint by wearing sunglasses. People must not tease persons suffering from squint.

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Steroid Abuse

Steroid is one of the groups of hormones that are chemically related to cholesterol.   The examples of steroids are estrogen, testosterone and corticosteroids.  These steroids could be used to heal certain diseases.  The most abused steroids are anabolic steroids.  Anabolic steroids are those steroids that function like testosterone, which produces an increase in endurance, strength, muscle growth and aggressiveness.  There could be serious complications of anabolic steroids abuse.  It is life threatening, as it could cause cancer of the liver. It could lead to aggressiveness, hypertension and also death. There could be facial and body hair growth, and it is a risk for prostate cancer in men.  The adverse effects in women are alopecia, which is hair loss, deepening of the voice, acne, breast cancer, and decrease in breast size.  It could lead to enlarged clitoris, and also there could be menstrual irregularities like secondary amenorrhea.  The adverse effects for men could be sterility, testicular atrophy, and it could lead to impotence because of the biofeedback mechanism of testosterone production.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The children from lower grades onward should be advised not to abuse any drug.  As they keep going up the academic ladder they must be taught the effects of the steroids.  The coaches of games like basketball, football, and track and field should advise the team members not to take steroids. Sport authorities should take stringent actions against the anabolic steroids abusers.  The International Olympic Committee is doing a good job by testing the athletes for illegal use and also taking stringent actions.  But other sport organizations must also take stringent actions to punish abusers. 

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Stings                                                

The insects that usually sting are honeybees, bumble bees, wasps, hornets and scorpions.  Most of us can bear the agony of some stings, but children cannot bear as much as the adults.  However, if a person is hypersensitive to a sting, even one sting can cause an anaphylactic shock and can kill that person. 

Management

All of us should keep our houses and surroundings free of insects and scorpions.  It is easier said than done but if we try all means to keep houses free of any type of insects then our surroundings will be free of them.  Pesticides can be used to kill some of these insects that bite but we have to be careful because the pesticides are also poisonous if ingested or inhaled.  Whenever a person gets stung, immediately, he should try to remove the sting.  If the sting is inside the skin, then ice cubes can used to relieve pain and aspirin can be taken.  Individuals with known hypersensitivity to stings should always have a kit containing epinephrine with a pre-filled syringe.  They should have this kit especially if they are living in areas where insects are copious. Anti-histamines could be taken to suppress hives.  In case of stings, prevention is better than cure.

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Street People

Street people problem is prevalent in almost every city in the world. Many people become street people because they are abandoned, they suffer from mental diseases, they have become extremely poor and nobody wants to take care of them.  Because of the people living on the street, there are a lot of problems.    It is a problem for street people to find food, clothes and shelter. They might be suffering from various diseases. It is a problem for tourism because it is not an aesthetic sight for tourists to see street people in the cities.  We have to see what can be done to mitigate the street people problem and alleviate the problems of the street people.  

Spiritual Solutions

First of all, the government should do everything to help the street people. It should leave no stone unturned to rectify the dilemma.  The government should have shelters for these street people.  The biggest problem of the street people is that they do not like to be settled.  They do not like to be in one place.  They want to move from place to place, as many of them suffer from mental disorders.  All the shelters ought to have visiting psychiatrists who can evaluate the street people and ascertain if they need to be hospitalized in psychiatric hospitals.   If the street people are treated for their mental diseases they may become normal and settle in one place.  The mental patients have to be constantly monitored even after treatment, in order to void relapse. 

The members of the society have to be taught not to abandon their relatives if they become mentally sick or poor.  The relatives should help each other.  The students in schools, colleges and universities and unemployed persons must be taught that no matter what happens they are not to throw in the towel. Rather they are to fight and struggle in life to make it.  People who become alcoholics and drug addicts may eventually land themselves on the street.  Therefore, alcoholism and drug addiction should be precluded.  The street people should be shown the love of Lord Jesus.  How can we show the love of Lord Jesus?  We can show the love of Lord Jesus by giving them food and clothes.

There are a lot of street children.  These children are to be given food, clothes and shelter. They must be put in schools where they can study and learn to become somebody in life by earning a degree and getting some work.  We, who are normal people, should attempt as much as possible to help street people and not speculate that someone else will do it.   The Bible expresses in Mathew 25:40, And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done to unto one of the least of these My brethren, ye have done it unto Me.  The text tells that for the people who have no shelter, food or clothes and those who are imprisoned, if we helped them in whatever capacity, we have indeed served the Lord.  Many people have great plans and ideas to help the street people but they will not put them into action.  It is better not to have a great idea in mind but rather do something small for the street people. The churches and charitable organizations should come up with some funds to rehabilitate the street people, not on short-term basis but on long term, in order to achieve major results.  I have been feeding the street people and giving them clothes once in a while for many years but I know it is not significant. God bless the individuals that help the street people.

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Stress

Stress is the pressure of any factor, whether mental, social or physical, which can adversely affect the function of the body.  Every person in this world has some kind of stress or the other.  When anyone says he/she does not have any stress at all in life, then he/she is lying.  Ever since Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden till today, stress reigns.  Stress is a very subjective matter.  What might be stress for one person might not be stress for the other. 

What are stressors? Stressors are events, situations and conditions that produce stress.  Stressors are the causes and stress is the end result.  The stressors could be physical stressors like disease, cancer or injury; socio-economic stressors such as romantic problems, class or caste divisions, divorce, death of a loved one, financial loss, and unemployment; and psychological stressors like fear, anxiety and depression.  All these stressors are negative stressors. There can be positive stressors, which can cause happiness, that is, like finding a job after searching for a long time, passing the examination with high grades, and winning an award.  All these are good stressors.  When people cannot control or manage stress, it can lead to health problems and diseases, such as ulcer, hypertension, migraine, asthma, allergies, insomnia, impotence, vagnismus, and menstrual irregularities.  One can face stress in home, school, work situations, and anywhere and everywhere.   

Management

The management deals with avoiding or coping with the negative stressors. Some recommendations to manage and cope up with stress are as follows:

1.      Spiritual Management: When people depend on God, He is going to take care of everything.  Mathew 6:33 states, Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.   If you seek God, He is going to give you good health, financial support, and will give succor to cope with socio-economic stressors or anything that comes your way. Go to Lord Jesus for not only will He give you a break from your stress but a royal ride of comfort. He states in Mathew 11:28, Come unto Me, all that have labored and are heavy ladened and I will give you rest.  So no matter what your stress is if you go to Him, He will give you rest. Your lifestyle must be one in which you submit your will to the Lord and you will avoid or cope with stress. Psalms 55:22 expresses, Cast your burdens upon the Lord and He shall sustain thee. He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.   Therefore, when you are stressed out no matter what is the cause of the stress, you should cast everything on Him, and He will help you. You need to read the Bible and pray and obey the commandments of the Lord to avoid or cope with stress.  Psalms 19:8 states, The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart:  The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes. 

2.      Relaxation Techniques:  A person, who is stressed, must breathe slowly and hold the breath. Occasionally, breathing in a bag for hyperventilation, can aid to cope with stress. Do exercise and play games. Jogging and walking will help. Keep occupied. Listen to soothing music especially slow gospel music. Go for picnics and go on tours if possible. 

3.      Social Management:  When a job is overwhelmingly stressing, it is better for the person to take up another job for health is of paramount importance. If people find a situation where they cannot deal with the stress, they are to use their discretion and cope up or avoid the situation.  Sometimes, it is hard to make big changes but if they can, it is fine. Friends and relatives are to pitch in and assist the affected ones.  If children are stressed at home, the parents should help the children to adjust and mitigate the stress.  If the stress is a marital problem, then the assistance of a marriage counselor should be sought.   

4.      Psychological Management: The seriously stressed person should see a counselor, who should try to find out what is the cause for the stress. He can aid the affected person to adjust with stress. There should be individual counseling if is helpful otherwise there should be group counseling.

5.      Medical Management: When people are still stressed after trying other techniques, then the person should see a medical doctor and get some medical help. Sedatives are usually prescribed for a given period of time. One cant take sedatives all the time.  If one takes sedatives all the time the problem becomes chronic, and that person can become addictive to these drugs. 

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Suicide

Suicide is the act of taking of ones life.   This is a serious problem, isnt it? When individuals take their own lives, it is not only a problem for the family members but also for the society.  It is also a problem because only God has the authority to take life. Exodus 28:13 says, Thou shalt not kill.  It means not only killing others but also taking ones life. There are more suicides in urban areas than in rural areas.  Suicide accounts for 10% of deaths and about 30% of suicide deaths are committed by college students in the US.30  Suicide is the second leading cause of death among the teenagers. 

What are the causes of suicide?  Some of the causes are romantic failure, loneliness, guilt, severe pain and unemployment. When persons are sad and depressed for various reasons, they are prone to suicide.  Schizophrenics and other mentally disordered persons can commit suicide.  Some patients with epilepsy are prone for suicide. Some commit suicide because they believe in nihilism (belief that life is useless) and a few terrorists commit suicide as suicide bombers for political and religious purposes.  The methods of suicide vary.   Some people commit suicide by hanging, some jump from high buildings, and others take overdose of drugs. 

Spiritual Solutions

No problem exists in world that justifies suicide because every problem can be resolved these days. A problem that has no solution is not a problem in the first place. Children must be inculcated that nobody has the right to take his own life. They should be taught the importance of life and negative repercussions of suicide. There should be Bible reading and prayer and following of Lord Jesus commandments throughout their lives to avoid suicide.  The causes of suicide should be avoided or removed. In case a lover has been ditched, that is no reason for him to commit suicide because he can find someone else. When bad things happen to us and we think there is no light at the end of the tunnel, we are to look to Lord Jesus.  Drug and alcohol drug addiction can lead persons to suicide so people should be taught from childhood not to indulge in them.  Persons, who suffer from schizophrenia and epilepsy, should be treated medically. Persons who are suicidal should attend social support groups or seek assistance from suicide help line organizations.

A person may call up someone and say, I have ingested some poison and am dying. The receiver of the call must find out immediately where the person is at that moment and call the emergency number so that paramedics can be sent immediately to resuscitate the victim. Persons, who have attempted to commit suicide in the past, will try again. Therefore, psychotherapy should be given and that person be prayed for that he will not commit suicide again.  The person should pray for himself also.

Anyone who threatens to commit suicide must be taken seriously.  Of course, some individuals, to blackmail others to get benefits like money or love, will threaten that they are going to commit suicide. This gimmick should be discouraged. By the way, you will hear on the news once in a while, that someone is on a high rise building threatening to commit suicide. Police should take action to prevent those episodes.

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Superstitions

Superstition is a belief or practice resulting from ignorance and fear or trust in magic.  It is also a false conception. There is superstition that if a black cat crosses the road in front of a person, he/she should not travel on that road.  There are many superstitions regarding the full moon and the new moon.  There is superstition that when you are sneezing, the devil is at the back tickling you.  Unlucky events and number are discussed elsewhere in this book.   

Spiritual Solutions

When you trust completely Lord Jesus, you will not believe in superstitions.  Praying and following the Bible will dispel superstitions. Children should be taught from childhood, what are superstitions and what are facts.  Good education can open the eyes of all who believe in superstitions. Some unscrupulous healers use lot of tricks and gimmick surgeries.  Only God can heal the sick.  But if a person is using superstitions and conducting surgeries without cutting the body and showing blood and removing some fake cancerous tissue, it is all a gimmick. Do not believe any superstition. 

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Survival Problems 

Situations arise unannounced where you need to do something to survive. For example, as you are driving a car on a bridge, suddenly you lose control and break the railings and it falls into the water; or as you are walking on ice and the ice caves in and you fall into the icy cold water, then you are facing survival problems and you need to do something in order to survive.  All these call for education and mental and physical preparations to survive.  

Management

The solutions lie in learning about survival techniques when you are not in trouble.  If you are caught in quicksand, you should know that you must not struggle, since the more you struggle the deeper you go in.  If the car you are in goes over a bridge and hits the water, then if you can jump out, it is fine, otherwise you should always have a small screwdriver to break the glass and come out.  Do not sit and allow the car to sink to the bottom of the river.  There will not be enough oxygen for you to survive if you do not get out fast. It is unwise to travel, take trips, or go on excursions, alone, but it is prudent to take someone along with you. If someone falls through ice into icy water, do not go near the victim because you too can fall in. Instead, throw a stick or a rope from a distance and pull the person to safety.  If you are trapped inside a building caught on fire, crawl on your knees because the smoke usually goes up and the air below will contain a little amount of oxygen.

In all cases of survival problems, pray to Lord Jesus as He can save you, if it is His will. Incidentally, if He saves you, thank and glorify Him by obeying His commandments and witnessing for Him.

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Taboos

A taboo is a prohibition in a cultural setting or it is a restricted act in the customs of a culture. The taboos, which do not have any rationale, can be problems in the society. For example, in some cultures when a woman is menstruating she must not go to the kitchen and cook. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The taboo where a woman is menstruating should not go to kitchen and cook, has no rationale nor logic.  There is no harm for a woman to cook while menstruating.  Education should be imparted to show what are good taboos and what are not.  Taboos, that prohibit drinking alcohol in all its forms, coffee and tea, and smoking, are actually good ones. All these are detrimental to health so these taboos could actually save lives.  Above all, pray to God to find out what taboos to follow. 

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Tetany

Tetany is a condition where there is spasm of facial muscles and rigidity of fingers and feet. There can be aching and spasm of the concerned muscles.  It can be caused because of hypoparathyroidism or alkalosis because of excessive vomiting or hyperventilation. There can be calcium deficiency too. 

Treatment

The patient should visit a medical doctor. Treatment would be according to the cause. If it is because of hypoparathyroidism, then it should be treated accordingly.  Calcium concentrates and supplements should also be given in order to heal tetany.   Calcium gluconmate is usually given intravenously under the prescription of medical doctors. 

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Telephone Cellular Phone Problem  

Cellular phones have a lot of advantages. You can talk to anyone at any place and any time, provided your cellular phone connection has satellite range.  However, there are some problems such as using cellular phones while driving.  It is causing accidents and innocent people are dying or being maimed apart from the ones using the phones.  There is a highly debatable theory that the use of cellular phones could cause tumors in the head. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Statutes and laws to ban people from using cell phones while driving should be enacted without procrastination.  There are many instances, where people while driving and talking on the cell phones have killed somebody or the other. Since it is highly controversial about the radiation through cellular phones causing tumors, it is best to use the earphones and not to keep the cellular phones to your ears and talk.  Try to use cellular phones only for emergency and avoid talking on cell phones for a long time. 

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Time Management Problem

            When time is not managed properly, problems are given birth.  Workers can be fired from jobs; people can suffer from financial losses, and stress. Students can fail to meet assignment and sometimes even fail courses, while others will fail to meet appointments and deadlines, miss flights and trains. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

            Solutions lie in good planning and organization.  Time wasted will never come back.  From childhood, everyone should utilize time properly.  If a person is going late to work, he or she must find out what is the trouble.  Is it because of watching TV late in the night?  Is it because of a traffic jam?  Is it because of water problems in the house?  Once the causes are ascertained, they should be avoided. 

            Always arrange things the previous day or night. Use an electronic organizer. Try to be 30 minutes early for any appointment, just to be on the safe side.  Finally, pray to God to help you to organize and manage your time properly.

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Tinnitus

Tinnitus is a buzzing or ringing sound in the ear.  This sound could be low or high pitched.  It can last for several minutes but if it is very persistent, it can interfere with normal activities like sleeping, studying or working, resulting in distress for the patients.  Tinnitus might be produced by several ear disorders including obstruction of the ear canal by cerumen and foreign bodies, infections of ear and tumors in the ear.  Diseases such as anemia, atherosclerosis and hypertension can cause it also. 

Treatment

The affected individuals are to visit a medical doctor or ENT specialist without delay. The treatment would be based on the cause. If it is because of cerumen blockage the concerned specialist should remove it.  Inexperienced persons should not attempt to remove the foreign bodies in the ear, as this could be harmful.  For some patients of tinnitus, hearing music or going to sleep with the radio turned on will ease their distress.

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Tremors

A tremor is an involuntary muscular shaking that fatigue, emotions or diseases could cause.  Several diseases such as Parkinsons syndrome, thyrotoxicosis and multiple sclerosis can cause tremors.  Tremors could be enhanced by emotional stress.  

Treatment

The affected individuals should visit a medical doctor without delay. The treatment depends on what is causing the tremors.  If it is because of Parkinsons syndrome then that disease should be treated. In case, thyrotoxicosis is the cause, then it should be treated. Usually propanolol drug is the choice of prescription for tremors.

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Tumors

Tumor is a morbid growth of a tissue, which may be benign or malignant.  The other word for tumor is neoplasm.   The benign tumor is one, which does not infiltrate or cause metastasis, and is unlikely to reoccur if it is removed surgically.  Malignant tumors are ones that invade and destroy tissues, and can spread to the neighboring tissues, thus causing metastasis.   Many people are frightened if they see a growth or a tumor on their body.  It could cause fear and anxiety, especially to the hypochondriacs, and it can handicap them completely. 

Treatment 

No one should take any tumor for granted, but must get it checked out by a medical doctor. The doctors, sometimes, by looking at the tumors can diagnose them if they are benign or malignant.  If the doctors have suspicion, they usually take a biopsy and through the biopsy, they will know if the tumor is malignant or not.  If it were malignant it would be treated by chemotherapy, radiation or surgery. When a person is reassured that his tumor is not cancerous, he can relax.  Regarding cancerous tumors, early diagnosis is significant.  Hence, do not delay.  When you see a tumor on your body get it checked and pray to God that it will not turn into a malignant one. If you do not have any tumor, thank God. 

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Ugliness

Ugliness means offensive to sight or unpleasing to the senses.  Ugliness is highly subjective. Some people look at other person and say Well, this person is ugly! or That persons face is not beautiful!  Making ugly remarks about somebody elses physical condition is nasty. It is not pleasant on the part of a person to call somebody ugly.  This is not in the right spirit.  If girl thinks of herself as being ugly, then it is a problem and something has to be done about it.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Do not call anybody ugly.  If a girl or woman thinks to be ugly, then the she should visit a psychologist to see if something should be done about it. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  There are some situations, which warrant cosmetic surgery like cleft palate and hare up. If the nose is extremely long rhinoplastic surgery can be performed to fix the nose.  Before persons undergo plastic surgery they must seek to find out the pros and cons of such surgery and the cost before making the decision. Pray to God and ask Him to help you accept yourself the way He made you, if not, undergo cosmetic surgery. 

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Underweight

How does one know if he/she is underweight?  For an adult female, if her BMI is below 19 then she is underweight and for an adult male if his BMI is below 20 then he is underweight.  BMI is Body Mass Index and its formula is weight in kilograms divided by height in meters raised to the power of two. Persons can become underweight if their total calorie intake is far less than their energy expenditure. Certain diseases and poverty can lead a person to be underweight. Persons who are underweight have very poor immune system and are vulnerable to various diseases. They will suffer from fatigue. 

Management

Calculate your BMI. If you are underweight, then certain measures should be taken to increase your weight. You are to increase you calorie intake more than your energy expenditure. If you are suffering from any disease you have to get it treated by a doctor. Suppose you are poor financially then you have to do something better to boost your purchasing power. If you do not suffer from any disease you can eat foods that are rich in fat. When you eat fried foods you will put on weight.  But dont eat too much at one time because it can cause constipation and dyspepsia.

It is good for you to do light exercise as it can increase your appetite. Dont vigorously exercise or else you will be burning more calories. The bottom line is to increase your dietary intake and decrease your burning of calories. Good and adequate sleep is necessary. The more the sleep the less the burning of calories. Pray to God to help you put on some weight. For other details please read my book, Dr. Stevensons Book on Preventive Nutrition.

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Unemployment

Unemployment is a condition where a person is not getting a job in spite of looking for one. The unemployment situation differs from country to country.  Some persons are unemployed because they were not properly trained and do not have educational qualifications. Others do not have the necessary experience. In some countries people are unemployed because they cannot afford to bribe, or do not have political connections. There is a limited number of available jobs in many places.  Unemployment could lead to crime, violence, unhappiness and a lot of other problems.  

Non-Spiritual Solutions

            I am recommending some solutions.

1.      The major solution lies with the government.  The government should leave no stone unturned to eradicate unemployment. It ought to create more jobs in various sectors.

2.      All the people looking for jobs must be qualified. They must possess degrees and good training in the concerned fields.

3.      They should have necessary experience. They are to work voluntarily to gain experience if they are not hired. The more experience, the better. 

4.      Search thoroughly on the Internet, in the newspapers, employment news etc., for job advertisements. Search offline and online. It is wise to put your resume on the Internet through some resume website agencies so that employers can see it and call you for interview if they think you are fit.  Get ready for interviews and do well in the interview without any nervousness.  

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Ungratefulness

Ungratefulness is being unthankful or thankless.  It is also a condition where a person shows no gratitude.  This is an obnoxious problem because ungratefulness is a son of pride.  If a person were proud, he would be ungrateful to others.  When one does not show appreciation, the person rendering the help might feel discouraged from ever helping him again. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The person who is ungrateful should realize that he is so. If he does not realize this problem on his own, someone close to him should tell him.   Once this is brought to his notice he should rectify the problem. Some individuals do not want to thank persons who are working under them. Where there are class or caste problems, the persons of a higher class or caste do not want to show gratitude to persons of a lower class or caste. This attitude stinks.  We have to thank each other. Thanksgiving is an unassuming son of politeness whereas arrogance begets an imperious son called ingratitude. 

Spiritual Solutions

 Above all we should thank God.  It is God who created us, He sent His Son Jesus to Calvary to shed His precious blood to save us.  Therefore, we need to thank God for all that He has done. The Bible advises in Psalm 118:1, O let us give thanks unto the Lord for He is good.  His mercy endureth forever.  God is so good that his mercies are forever so we should thank Him always.

We ought to tell others about what God had done for us.  In Psalms 105:1 it states, O give thanks unto the Lord, call upon His name, make known his deeds among His people. We should make known His wonderful works by witnessing about Him to others.  Psalms 150:1 declares, Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.  Praise ye the Lord.  God have given us food to eat and air to breathe. We must all praise God and be grateful to Him for everything.  

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Unkempt Appearance

To be unkempt is to be deficient in neatness or in the appearance.  When people do not appear well, and are not groomed properly, it could lead to problems for that person.  That person might not get a good job, or may not easily be allowed into social groups. This could be distressing. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

The unkempt person should be aware that he is not neat.  He/she must dress up nicely, comb his/her hair properly and wear cologne/perfume. In order to get rid of smell from perspiration, he/she should bathe daily and use deodorants. Good oral hygiene must be followed to avoid halitosis.

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Unlucky Events and Numbers

Unlucky event is a condition marked by failure or adversity. It is an action, which is unfortunate.  There are many people who belief in unlucky events and inauspicious times. They can be a problem that can handicap many things, which could have been done.  It is said that thirteen is unlucky. Many people believe in unlucky events.  It is a matter of concern.  It could lead to stress and anxiety to the persons who believe in unlucky events and numbers. See the topic Superstitions also. 

Spiritual Solutions

The first solution is to impart education to dispel their beliefs in unlucky events. If people are taught from childhood not to believe in unlucky events and numbers, then they cope up pretty well.  The most important thing is when you must believe in Jesus as God and pray to Him, you will not believe in unlucky things.  God knows everything. Romans 8:28 states, And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose. Now, we see if we believe in God, everything will work for our own good. There are nothing like unlucky events, numbers or lucky charms, since everything will happen according to the will of God or shall be permitted by Him. 

I know there are times when people die in a car or plane crash and the relatives will think that the day of crash was an unlucky day or it was unlucky trip.  Because of sin some sad events do happen. Satan is often trying to kill people and bring disasters into the world and blame God.  You might well ask me, Why is God allowing these things to happen?  For this question there is no real answer except for sin.  Remember, death is sure and life is uncertain. We just have to prepare so that when our time comes, we will be ready. 

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Unpopularity

Unpopularity is a condition where the public is unfavorable to a person or the public detests a person.  There are many reasons why persons can be unpopular.  Individuals can be unpopular if they are too proud and incommunicable and when they think there is no end for themselves. Sometimes a teacher will be unpopular when she is too hard on the students, gives too many assignments and dishes out very poor grades.  The manager of a company can be unpopular if he is unkind, inconsiderate and always finding fault and reprimanding. There must be some ways to get out of unpopularity. 

Non-Spiritual Solutions

A person should find out why he or she is unpopular. If he/she is unable to find out why, the person should ask someone why he/she is not popular. Usually others will tell what the problem is.  The person should try to remove the reason for unpopularity. He/she probably needs to be compassionate, humble, communicate well, and learn to listen. 

Do not be like the politicians who tell lies and make false promises to be popular and then after wining an election they forget all the promises because none of the promises were sincere anyway.  Always remember not to compromise principles in order to be popular. A politician should not support the evil things such as prostitution and homosexuality in order to be popular. You should not be popular for the sake of being popular; you should be popular because you are doing something better for the people.  My advice is it is better not to be popular than to compromise the principles of life.

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Untouchability

Untouchability is found in a few villages in India.  Persons in the high caste dont want to do anything with any body from the low caste where untouchability exists.  In the urban areas of India, there is no presence of untouchability, as the government of India worked hard to eradicate it but in some remote rural areas untouchability still prevails. In places, where untouchability exists, low caste people cannot eat in the same restaurant and cannot draw water from the same well used by high caste people.   

Non-Spiritual Solutions

Children must be taught in the schools that nobody is an untouchable.  God created everybody equal and there actually should be no caste or class division. We should show love to one another. We are to share the same world. The high class people are not to look down on the low class people.  The Bible confirms that God hates a proud look.  So we should not have proud look and we should eradicate untouchability.  Apartheid was abolished some time ago, but in some remote pockets of India, untouchability still exists.  We should all work together to remove this untouchability by showing love. 

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Urticaria

Urticaria is an acute or chronic skin condition where there is appearance of wheals. It causes great itching and irritation. It is also called hives (see Appendix 1). The causes of urticaria might be allergy to certain foods, infections, drugs and even emotional stress.  There could be pain and burning sensation of the skin.  Some patients have sensitive skin where if some pressure is applied to the skin and is then released, some hives will form there and later will disappear.  It is called contact urticaria. 

Treatment

Patients suffering from urticaria are to visit a dermatologist.  Usually the line of treatment is topical corticosteroids. In case of acute urticaria, doctors would treat with systemic topical corticosteroids. When a patient knows the foods or drugs that are causing urticaria, he should avoid those foods or drugs.

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